Going the Distance: 5 Tarot Card for a Happy Marriage

Love, love, love! Okay, you may have noticed that it is not February anymore, the month of love. So sorry, I never seem to end up blogging as much as I intend to in a given month. The good news is that there is no end to the ideas and topics I have for blog posts, so even if I don’t write a bunch to share with you every month, I will never stop sputtering them out every now and again. Love is love, and it is a wonderful thing to think about and read about any month of the year. Am I right?!

I hear a lot of advice about the importance of consistency when blogging. It helps your audience know what’s coming and stick around to read on a regular basis. I just want to let you know that I appreciate you, even if I don’t blog consistently, and for everyone who hangs around regardless of my blog release schedule, I love you! I do send out my newsletter consistently each New Moon, so sign up for that!

Now, let’s talk about the tarot cards that show in up a reading for those long term relationships that end up culminating in a blissful union!

Rider Waite Smith Tarot: IV of Wands, III of Cups, The Lovers, The World, X of Cups

First off, I’ve chosen the IV of Wands. This card is about milestones, those big, life-defining events that come around and rock your world every once in a while. What would you call getting married besides a momentous milestone?! I love seeing the IV of Wands show up in a reading anytime, as it is such a celebratory and joyful card, but when you’re looking for information or advice about a relationship, pulling this card will surely put a smile upon a reader’s face. In the image above from the Rider Waite Smith tarot, we see two lavishly dressed and decorated people, cheering you to come join them under four Wands which look like a traditional Jewish wedding chuppah. The imagery itself is suggestive of a wedding and that is always a good sign if you’re wondering whether it’s time to pop the question.

IV of Wands Shadowscapes Tarot

The IV of Wands also stands for harmony within a union, meaning that two people will come together to form a beautiful blend of complementary attributes. This will be a peaceful and loving relationship, bringing you a sense of tranquility that the search is over and you can transition into a new phase of your life. The IV number shows that this relationship is one in which you can build a stable home, a home where you can express yourself freely and each grow as individuals, as well as grow as a couple. There will be acceptance and space given when changes occur, because we all are changing every day and that is a wonderful thing to share with another human being. In the beginning of a marriage, it is a great time to acknowledge and discuss this fact of constant development and growth. Make a pact that you each will be constant and stable for each other, while still allowing that you each will be different people as the relationship and time progresses.

Next up we have the III of Cups, which in the Rider Waite Smith deck above shows a trio of merry women toasting their Cups of love while dancing. This looks like the kind of wedding I would like to be at! There are deep emotions with the Cups cards, and the building of a solid foundation with the 3 aspect. At a wedding the happy new couple shares food and drink with all their guests as a symbol of the bounty of their union. This card comes up when you’re planning a lavish wedding, or even a simple supper, but definitely an event where everyone walks away with full bellies and happy hearts. It will be a day when people can put their troubles aside and focus on all the happiness and love that life has to offer. This a positive and lovely card to draw as you plan a ceremony and reception that will leave you, your partner, and everyone in attendance in a state of harmony and joy.

III of Cups Wild Unknown Tarot

The III of Cups represents a union at which friends and family come together to form a larger unit. There is community building and sharing, aspects of any marriage at which two families are brought together to create one family. Friendship groups will also be joined, which nowadays can be almost more important than the bringing together of families. When you marry a person, you marry their whole family and community. The III of Cups shows that circle of people surrounding your union and blessing it with their love and acceptance. It is also a reminder to always find the fun in your relationship. As you spend the rest of your lives together, think back to the excitement of your wedding and keep that memory of good times, dancing, and celebrating near to your heart.

Of course, I have to include The Lovers in the list of tarot cards that signify a wedding or other sacred celebration. The Lovers is the ultimate card of union, the joining of opposites, and the combining of values. In any marriage you want to feel like you are channeling the energy of The Lovers on your wedding day. Many people get married in June, the 6th month of the year, which corresponds with card VI The Lovers. There is an energy of combining and aligning with this card. It is important to know what your own personal values are as an individual and then to explore and question whether your personal belief system is able to combined with the personal belief system of another person. You’re committing to taking life’s journey with another person and will need to make choices as a unit to live that journey together. Hopefully, you did all of that exploration while you were dating and now that the marriage is imminent you have a sense of peace and excitement that your shared values will carry you forward throughout your marriage.

The Lovers
Linestrider Tarot

The Lovers is also about passion and romance, so it is a wonderful card to see for a wedding because it is not only about true love, but also romantic and sexual compatibility. Your attraction goes beyond lust and gratification and takes on the deeper level of soul fulfillment. Our soul’s have these human bodies for a reason and a marriage promises to fulfill that sexual need throughout your life.

Love is the recognition of oneness in a world of separation. It is so hard for us to see that we are all made of the same stuff and we’re all connected as one. Love makes it easy to see that connection, to feel oneness with another human being, and to tear down the walls of separation that are constructions of our egoic minds. The Lovers is symbolic of physical as well as emotional unity and it is THE card you want to see when you’re considering an upcoming marriage proposal or wedding.

Next up we have The World, which is a card of culmination. The World indicates the space between an ending and a beginning when everything is connecting and finishing, while simultaneously recycling and starting anew. A marriage is the end of a courtship, the climax of a romance that has lead to this point when two people decide they want to spend the rest of their lives together. It is also the beginning of a new chapter in that romance, when they begin the cycle of growth together again. Marriage is an example of one of life’s most beautiful cycles, one that most of look forward to experiencing.

Rider Waite Smith tarot

There is a deep sense of accomplishment with The World. Finding your person, falling in love, and committing to a lifetime together was quite a task. Now you can celebrate and rejoice, dance as the woman in Rider Waite Smith deck does in her wreath in the sky. You envisioned this happy time and now it is finally here. Try to be present and appreciate your wedding, if you can 🙂 You may find that you feel more whole, more complete, and that you understand your place in the world a little bit better. Your marriage provides wholeness with your spouse but also with your combined families joining into something greater. Lastly, The World is a sign that a honeymoon abroad could be in the works as this can be a card about world travel. Make sure your passport is current!

The last card I have to suggest that denotes a happy marriage when it comes up in a reading is the X of Cups. This is the happily ever after card. In the Rider Waite Smith depiction we see two figures holding each other and gazing at a rainbow of Cups in the sky, in front of them dance their children in the pasture by their lovely little home. This is the white picket fence, the 2 kids (a boy and a girl, of course!), the perfect home, the sharing of emotions and love. This is what we imagine marriage will be like when we are growing up and dreaming about falling in love. It can be a sign that you are seeing the world with rose-tinted glasses, so a little reality check might be in order. You aren’t just imagining all of this happiness, are you!?

Rider Waite Smith tarot

I don’t want this introspection to come across as a buzzkill, but rather as an opportunity to explore all the feelings you are having about and with your partner. Sit down and have this dream together, envision your happiest future, share your wildest dreams. This mutual sharing can create a strong and lasting bond as you near your wedding knowing that you have a mutual vision of your future together. When your values are in alignment, you will be able to act in loving support and appreciation of your spouse. The X of Cups suggests you do the work of aligning your visions, connecting your hearts, and making a real life together. Now is the perfect time to indulge in some fantasy about how you can continue to love and support each other the rest of your days!

I hope you enjoyed this little exploration into 5 tarot cards that I think indicate a happy marriage in the works, when they come up in a reading. What cards do you think of when you imagine the perfect cards to draw for a happy marriage?

Are We Falling in Love?: 5 Tarot Cards for New Love

Happy February! The month of love! It’s a slow month for greeting card and candy companies so they came together to create a little holiday called Valentines’ Day. It’s a glorious day when we’re obligated to show our special someone affection with cloyingly sweet poems and sugar confections. And don’t forget the flowers! Maybe you can pick up on my slightly mocking tone, as I’m a firm believer that every day is a wonderful day to show love, appreciation, and affection for the people in your life that deserve it (and they all do!). Although I might not approve of corporations co-opting the best of human emotions in order to sell things, all the same, I’m going to spend some time this February writing about love and relationships and how these themes come up in the tarot.

I believe that tarot reflects all human emotions and experiences in its 78 cards. How this is possible, I don’t know. It’s amazing! It’s magic! Today, I’ve picked five cards that represent new love. When I see these cards in a reading, especially a reading focused on love and relationships, I get a little tingle that things are going well in the love department for this person. If all five came up I would be completely astounded, but even just one or two is a great sign that things are progressing well. If love between people interested in having a romantic relationship is what your reading is focused on, these are the cards you want to see.

Of course, these aren’t the only cards that are indicative of a new love or a relationship that has lasting and loving potential. I’m just picking cards for fun here, to introduce some light and love into our February. I’m also going to write more than one post about love this February, and I refrained from repeating cards in these different love posts. So while it would certainly be great to get The Lovers in any card about relationships, I’m only going to write about that particular card once during this February series. That’s just me giving more cards a chance to show their lovey dovey side.

Okay, introductions have been made, now let’s move onto to my picks for the top five tarot cards for new love. Swoon!

Rider Waite Smith Tarot: Page of Cups, Ace of Cups, Knight of Cups, II of Cups, IX of Cups

Did you notice that I picked all cards from the suit of Cups for new love?  Sure, there is emotion and love in all of the other suits of the tarot deck as well, but something about new love had me concentrating hard on the demonstrative emotions present in cards of the Cups suit. There isn’t a ton of nuance to a fresh relationship. As much as you’d like to say that there are rational reasons why you’re falling in love with someone, really you know that if you don’t feel those butterflies in your stomach and that thrill down your spine, it’s not quite what you were hoping for or expecting. It might not even feel real or good enough if you’re heart doesn’t skip a beat at the sight of your lover in a crowd, or your finger shake with anticipation as you swipe to open the latest text message. So I chose five Cups cards to evoke that newness in a relationship when you’ve got all the feels.

The Wild Unknown Tarot

Okay, my first pick for a tarot card that represents new love, falling in love, or the beginning of a relationship is the Page of Cups. The Pages in the tarot deck are messengers and the Cups represent the Water realm of the emotions. So, the Page of Cups brings you messages from the emotions, and he really likes to be the bearer of happy news. He’s here to say, “This one’s a keeper. This one you could really fall in love with for good. There’s potential for a deeper connection from the vibes I’m picking up.” He holds out his Cup as if he wants to have a toast to celebrate the messages of love that he brings you. He’s supper happy to be a part of the whole set up. If you’re waiting to be asked out on that first date, or told that someone has a little crush on you, this card is a good indication that you’re going to get the message soon.

The Page of Cups enjoys flirting, getting to know you, romance, love, and joy. This energy is great for first dates, and the beginning of a relationship when you’re trying to put your best foot forward, but still be authentic to yourself. You will have the ability to project your best self, because you will truthfully feel worthy of love with the Page of Cups energy coursing through you. This Page is happy-go-lucky,  playful, and exuberant. You’ll be able to enjoy spontaneous moments of connections and share yourself without restraint. He is also new and innocent in a way. When the Page of Cups shows up in a new love reading, you might be ready and willing to leave your past behind, put down any relationship baggage that doesn’t represent you and your highest self, and then align your energy to now resonate at that higher level that is your inner truth.

Next up in my top picks for new love is the Ace of Cups. The Aces, like the Pages, stand for new beginnings. Any Ace would be great as indicator for a new relationship, but once again, Cups are all about emotions and we’re talking about love today, folks, so the Ace of Cups is a great new beginning in the realm of the heart. Aces also represent the essence of a suit, so the very essence of the Cups suit is love and compassion. It is the fulfillment of the heart’s deepest desires. It is the overflowing wellspring of emotion that one often feels at the beginning of a relationship when you are just so happy, thankful, overwhelmed, and enamored with the one you have finally found.

Linestrider Tarot

If you haven’t found anyone yet to share a love connection with, this is a great card to get in alignment with in order to bring that love into your life. Channeling the open and abundant energy of the Ace of Cups attracts love to you, as like attracts like. When you are feeling love, love is what you will get more of in your life. It is so very necessary to first have self-love before you go about giving and receiving love from another person. The Ace of Cups invites you to love who you are on a soul level, heart level, mental level, and physical level. The more success you have with this inner work of self love, the easier, more natural, and quicker will come the ability to connect with others in that same manner. When you see the Ace of Cups in a reading, it’s a wonderful time to get into the deep emotion of love at it’s core essence.

Shadowscapes Tarot

Along comes the Knight of Cups, as my next pick for a great indicator of a love connection in a reading. The Knight of Cups is the great romantic of the tarot deck. He loves to be in love. “All the feels” is his comfort zone. This card is more likely to show up when you’re already dating someone, have decided to you’re into each other, and are now feeling ready and willing to be intimate and romantic. This is the Valentine’s Day energy of chocolate and flowers, candlelit dinners, weekends away in the country with rose petals on the bed. There’s an air of seduction around the Knight of Cups, a sexy energy that you may feel like embodying to wow your partner. Or you could now be interested in allowing yourself to open up and share more deeply with the one you’re dating these days.

The Knight of Cups is also a messenger, like the Page of Cups, but brings slightly more prestigious or important messages. If you’re waiting to hear the “L word” from your (hopefully) lover, or have a big conversation about “where this is all going,” this is the card you want to see for a positive confirmation that the feelings of love are mutual. Now is the right time to get real about sharing your feelings, listen to what your partner has to say, and take your relationship to the next level. The Knight of Cups will sweep you off your feet with swoon-worthy romantic gestures, straight out of a movie. You could find yourself making these grand gestures or be the recipient of a 100 red roses, either way, love is in the air and it feels wonderful!

Le Tarot des Femmes Erotiques- II of Cups

Do I even need to explain the II of Cups? I mean, look at it! In the image from artist Pamela Coleman Smith above, we see two figures exchanging or sharing their Cups of emotions. They look seriously into each other, and are blessed from above by the winged lion of passion, and a caduceus of healing and balance. This depicts the idea that a new love is the coming together of opposites, the joining of binary energy to create oneness. This is the beauty of two becoming one (excuse the Spice Girls reference). I like the art of Pamela Coleman Smith because the people she draws defy typical gender norms, especially if you’re willing to suspend the idea that men wear pants and women wear dresses. You can do it! It isn’t just about a man and woman coming together, as opposites genders attract. It is beyond that, the idea that two people can be connected and understand their oneness with all of creation through the small experience of just the two of them sharing oneness.

Perhaps all of that is a bit deep for new love, but really, what is love besides the recognition of oneness in a binary world? We all crave love because we understand on an unconscious, fundamental level that we are all one, made of the same energy, and it is only our senses that separate us. The II of Cups hints at that oneness. The II of Cups is about kindness, togetherness, gentleness. It’s that fresh start of love when you are on your best behavior naturally, showing the true essence of your kind and simple nature. There is a lot of potential for even deeper connection when the II of Cups appears in a reading. This new love that you are experiencing now may be the start of something long lasting.

Shadowscapes Tarot

The last card I picked to represent new love is the IX of Cups. This is the card of wishes come true. The fat and happy little man above is content and smug with all of his many Cups lined up behind him. This is the feeling you get when you wish upon every star to find a companion who listens to you and truly sees you and then you find that person! It’s like you can hardly believe your good luck. It might feel like luck, so there can be a little prickle of doubt that you don’t deserve this happiness, but do not go down that road. You need to be focused on how well everything is working out for you, and don’t give doubt the time of day. You’ve hit the jackpot! Maybe you made a long list of attributes that you wished to find in a lover and they all walked in the door in one package and you just feel so goddamn good about it.

And you should feel good because you deserve this happiness! The IX of Cups shows up when you’ve been putting in the effort. You’ve worked on your self love, you’ve explored and probed for what you want in a relationship, you’ve asked the Universe for this person, and you’ve acted as if it was happening for so long that it is actually happening. This is a culmination of all that hard work. This is your reward and you can now be satisfied and content with the love you have attracted into your life by putting out all those love vibes everywhere you went. This is just the beginning, remember that, but still enjoy the shit out of these moments of new found love. These are the memories you are going to turn back to again and again with that blissful smile of nostalgia for new love. It’s time to have your cake and eat it too!

Okay, that’s it for today. It’s a fun exercise to go through your deck and pick your top five love cards (or top five whatever cards!).  If you’re in the mood to play with your tarot deck, let me know what you would pick for this exercise! I would love to hear from you 🙂  Happy February, month of LOVE! I hope to be back super soon with another top five about the next layer of the love parade, my top five cards for choosing your life partner and getting hitched!