Going the Distance: 5 Tarot Card for a Happy Marriage

Love, love, love! Okay, you may have noticed that it is not February anymore, the month of love. So sorry, I never seem to end up blogging as much as I intend to in a given month. The good news is that there is no end to the ideas and topics I have for blog posts, so even if I don’t write a bunch to share with you every month, I will never stop sputtering them out every now and again. Love is love, and it is a wonderful thing to think about and read about any month of the year. Am I right?!

I hear a lot of advice about the importance of consistency when blogging. It helps your audience know what’s coming and stick around to read on a regular basis. I just want to let you know that I appreciate you, even if I don’t blog consistently, and for everyone who hangs around regardless of my blog release schedule, I love you! I do send out my newsletter consistently each New Moon, so sign up for that!

Now, let’s talk about the tarot cards that show in up a reading for those long term relationships that end up culminating in a blissful union!

Rider Waite Smith Tarot: IV of Wands, III of Cups, The Lovers, The World, X of Cups

First off, I’ve chosen the IV of Wands. This card is about milestones, those big, life-defining events that come around and rock your world every once in a while. What would you call getting married besides a momentous milestone?! I love seeing the IV of Wands show up in a reading anytime, as it is such a celebratory and joyful card, but when you’re looking for information or advice about a relationship, pulling this card will surely put a smile upon a reader’s face. In the image above from the Rider Waite Smith tarot, we see two lavishly dressed and decorated people, cheering you to come join them under four Wands which look like a traditional Jewish wedding chuppah. The imagery itself is suggestive of a wedding and that is always a good sign if you’re wondering whether it’s time to pop the question.

IV of Wands Shadowscapes Tarot

The IV of Wands also stands for harmony within a union, meaning that two people will come together to form a beautiful blend of complementary attributes. This will be a peaceful and loving relationship, bringing you a sense of tranquility that the search is over and you can transition into a new phase of your life. The IV number shows that this relationship is one in which you can build a stable home, a home where you can express yourself freely and each grow as individuals, as well as grow as a couple. There will be acceptance and space given when changes occur, because we all are changing every day and that is a wonderful thing to share with another human being. In the beginning of a marriage, it is a great time to acknowledge and discuss this fact of constant development and growth. Make a pact that you each will be constant and stable for each other, while still allowing that you each will be different people as the relationship and time progresses.

Next up we have the III of Cups, which in the Rider Waite Smith deck above shows a trio of merry women toasting their Cups of love while dancing. This looks like the kind of wedding I would like to be at! There are deep emotions with the Cups cards, and the building of a solid foundation with the 3 aspect. At a wedding the happy new couple shares food and drink with all their guests as a symbol of the bounty of their union. This card comes up when you’re planning a lavish wedding, or even a simple supper, but definitely an event where everyone walks away with full bellies and happy hearts. It will be a day when people can put their troubles aside and focus on all the happiness and love that life has to offer. This a positive and lovely card to draw as you plan a ceremony and reception that will leave you, your partner, and everyone in attendance in a state of harmony and joy.

III of Cups Wild Unknown Tarot

The III of Cups represents a union at which friends and family come together to form a larger unit. There is community building and sharing, aspects of any marriage at which two families are brought together to create one family. Friendship groups will also be joined, which nowadays can be almost more important than the bringing together of families. When you marry a person, you marry their whole family and community. The III of Cups shows that circle of people surrounding your union and blessing it with their love and acceptance. It is also a reminder to always find the fun in your relationship. As you spend the rest of your lives together, think back to the excitement of your wedding and keep that memory of good times, dancing, and celebrating near to your heart.

Of course, I have to include The Lovers in the list of tarot cards that signify a wedding or other sacred celebration. The Lovers is the ultimate card of union, the joining of opposites, and the combining of values. In any marriage you want to feel like you are channeling the energy of The Lovers on your wedding day. Many people get married in June, the 6th month of the year, which corresponds with card VI The Lovers. There is an energy of combining and aligning with this card. It is important to know what your own personal values are as an individual and then to explore and question whether your personal belief system is able to combined with the personal belief system of another person. You’re committing to taking life’s journey with another person and will need to make choices as a unit to live that journey together. Hopefully, you did all of that exploration while you were dating and now that the marriage is imminent you have a sense of peace and excitement that your shared values will carry you forward throughout your marriage.

The Lovers
Linestrider Tarot

The Lovers is also about passion and romance, so it is a wonderful card to see for a wedding because it is not only about true love, but also romantic and sexual compatibility. Your attraction goes beyond lust and gratification and takes on the deeper level of soul fulfillment. Our soul’s have these human bodies for a reason and a marriage promises to fulfill that sexual need throughout your life.

Love is the recognition of oneness in a world of separation. It is so hard for us to see that we are all made of the same stuff and we’re all connected as one. Love makes it easy to see that connection, to feel oneness with another human being, and to tear down the walls of separation that are constructions of our egoic minds. The Lovers is symbolic of physical as well as emotional unity and it is THE card you want to see when you’re considering an upcoming marriage proposal or wedding.

Next up we have The World, which is a card of culmination. The World indicates the space between an ending and a beginning when everything is connecting and finishing, while simultaneously recycling and starting anew. A marriage is the end of a courtship, the climax of a romance that has lead to this point when two people decide they want to spend the rest of their lives together. It is also the beginning of a new chapter in that romance, when they begin the cycle of growth together again. Marriage is an example of one of life’s most beautiful cycles, one that most of look forward to experiencing.

Rider Waite Smith tarot

There is a deep sense of accomplishment with The World. Finding your person, falling in love, and committing to a lifetime together was quite a task. Now you can celebrate and rejoice, dance as the woman in Rider Waite Smith deck does in her wreath in the sky. You envisioned this happy time and now it is finally here. Try to be present and appreciate your wedding, if you can 🙂 You may find that you feel more whole, more complete, and that you understand your place in the world a little bit better. Your marriage provides wholeness with your spouse but also with your combined families joining into something greater. Lastly, The World is a sign that a honeymoon abroad could be in the works as this can be a card about world travel. Make sure your passport is current!

The last card I have to suggest that denotes a happy marriage when it comes up in a reading is the X of Cups. This is the happily ever after card. In the Rider Waite Smith depiction we see two figures holding each other and gazing at a rainbow of Cups in the sky, in front of them dance their children in the pasture by their lovely little home. This is the white picket fence, the 2 kids (a boy and a girl, of course!), the perfect home, the sharing of emotions and love. This is what we imagine marriage will be like when we are growing up and dreaming about falling in love. It can be a sign that you are seeing the world with rose-tinted glasses, so a little reality check might be in order. You aren’t just imagining all of this happiness, are you!?

Rider Waite Smith tarot

I don’t want this introspection to come across as a buzzkill, but rather as an opportunity to explore all the feelings you are having about and with your partner. Sit down and have this dream together, envision your happiest future, share your wildest dreams. This mutual sharing can create a strong and lasting bond as you near your wedding knowing that you have a mutual vision of your future together. When your values are in alignment, you will be able to act in loving support and appreciation of your spouse. The X of Cups suggests you do the work of aligning your visions, connecting your hearts, and making a real life together. Now is the perfect time to indulge in some fantasy about how you can continue to love and support each other the rest of your days!

I hope you enjoyed this little exploration into 5 tarot cards that I think indicate a happy marriage in the works, when they come up in a reading. What cards do you think of when you imagine the perfect cards to draw for a happy marriage?

Birthday Reading for My Year of The Lovers

Another birthday, another birthday tarot reading! My birthday was July 8th and it was fantastic. My sister came in from Philly and two friends from Boston came for a visit as well and we just lived it up. That’s why my reading write up is a little late! I did schedule in the time to draw the cards on my actual birthday though, because that just makes me so happy. If you want to do a birthday reading for yourself, or have me do one for you, it really doesn’t have to be on your birthday. I just love the symbolism and the nurturing effect of spending quality time focusing on myself on my special annual day.

I’m entering a new tarot year cycle, like you do every year, and this one will be ruled by The Lovers. The Lovers represent personal values and personal belief systems. They come after the energy of The Hierophant which is society telling you the norms of behavior, emotion, action, and belief. With The Lovers comes self-made decisions and choices about what you personally believe and how you want to align your actions with those beliefs. These decisions often involve how and who we love, how we form partnerships, and what we believe and do in our relationships. I’m going to get married during my year of The Lovers! Whoot!

I will get to writing more of my thoughts on what a year of The Lovers entails at a later date, but for now, I’m exploring the possibilities of how The Lovers energy will manifest in my current year through this tarot reading. Here are the cards from The Wild Unknown Tarot deck that I drew and the meanings of the positions below:
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What do I bring with me to this year of The Lovers? Ace of Wands
Creativity, ideas, passion, drive, fecundity. This looks like the best card of the draw to me right now! 🙂 I’m bringing a lot of enthusiasm and fresh energy with me to the start of this year. The Ace of Wands reminds me of all the ideas and creative projects I have going on right now. It feels like I have something wonderful to bring with me, that I am inspired, and ready to create. I can bring sunshine, creativity, and a sense of blossoming into the coming year. There is a lot of potential with the Ace of Wands, the key is to tap into that potential, work hard, and make something happen. Pure potential is great, but it doesn’t manifest on it’s own- I have to make use of it. It is a seed that needs to be nurtured in order for it to grow. My challenge is to keep going when the initial excitement of the year’s beginning recedes and I have still have to do the work of caring for and growing my projects.

What is The Lovers beneficial influence?- V of Swords reversed 
Learning to get along, figuring out how to communicate, refraining from competition. The V of Swords reversed signals the cessation of the classic struggle inherent in all 5 cards in the tarot deck. The Swords often have to do with a battle of the mind, so this year could find me learning how to quiet the negative voice inside my head that says, “You’re not doing as well as others. You are not fitting in. You need to beat the competition. You are not worthy of love. You are doing a bad job at life.” Or any other dark thought pattern that acts to separate myself mentally from those around me because I’ve decided that we are at odds. The Lovers is a card of harmony, it’s about working together towards common goals, it’s realizing that we are all one, and there is room for each of us to succeed. This year is a time for compromise and focusing on shared goals. It is a year for learning to love myself and to value my contribution to the world.

What blocks or oppositions need I be aware of?- III of Swords reversed
Refusal to make decisions, carrying past hurts, stuck in a negative space. Ah yes, the challenge for me this year will also be about the mental blocks that keep me from feeling integrated and whole with the Universe. We are all guilty of getting stuck thinking about how things have gone wrong in the past and sinking into our suffering and sorrow. Life is suffering! Yes, but it is also joy. It is a balance. It is a duality, just like The Lovers. This card shows us the yin and yang of life and asks us to make an effort to figure out the process of integration into a whole self. The III of Swords reversed is a clear warning to me that I will tend towards the negative this year, shying away from compromise, holding onto grudges, and keeping a narrow worldview. That is basically how the mind works in general, so my obstacle is known and acknowledged. Now all I have to do is keep that awareness and not let it stop me from working towards the integrated harmony of The Lovers. That’s it!?

What do I need to learn during this cycle?- The Hermit reversed
Coming out of my shell, spiritual connection to others, involvement in the world. I love being The Hermit, spending my time in quiet contemplation and isolation, exploring my calm inner center and the spiritual mysteries of life. This Hermit behavior is solitary though, and a year of The Lovers is about connection. I would love to learn this year how to connect and how to enjoy that sharing with others on a spiritual level. I want more people to find my tarot business and join with me on this path of discovery and self-awareness. I want to create a supportive and nurturing community that helps to lift each other up, instead of relying solely on my own resources to grown and protect myself. This is a difficult thing for me, it will not come naturally. The next card, The Emperor, has some advice on how I can effectively leave my shell and be more extroverted in the world.

How can I best incorporate these lessons into my life?- The Emperor
Confidence, authority, extroversion, nonstop power poses. The Emperor is the epitome of outward confidence, discipline, and authority. He truly knows what he knows and is not afraid or shy to exhibit that. The masculine energy here means doing and involvement, not being and isolation. I need to define my structures and trust in my foundation. Honestly, I feel like I do have a lot of self-confidence, I’m just not particularly keen on sharing that with others. I feel like the message here is, “Just do it.” Use fire energy to do without overplanning, overthinking it, or hesitation. I really can’t accomplish my goals by being the Hermit, no matter how much I would love it if that happened. Perhaps a bit of time working with the outward energy of the Emperor is enough so that I can build up a sustainable business and then go back within in the future, where I like to hang out.

What area of my life will be most influenced by The Lovers?- IV of Pentacles reversed
Financial stability will be difficult to achieve, feelings of security in the world will be lacking. Things are not looking so well financially for me at this time. Moving to Nashville, car repairs, medical bills, it all adds up and The Willow Path Tarot isn’t quite at the point where it covers all the expenses, nor is touring with Kristen. The IV of Pentacles reversed is all about holding onto your money, perhaps even greedily, but definitely not spending wads of cash on whatever might be tantalizing and shiny in the moment. Perhaps this year I will better define my relationship to money, or at least define it at all. Right now I feel like I am a super responsible money manager, paying my bills, and knowing to the penny what my cashflow situation is. Yet at the same time I am a super good vacation planner budgeting meticulously for the longest, most fun trip. I can earn it, but I can also spend it. What will make me happier though? Getting a steady job and having some money in the bank? Or being self-employed and having the freedom to make my own schedule but without that financial security? Perhaps this year of The Lovers will help me align my financial goals and values with my actual work actions.

What will be the most likely result at the end of this year?- Father of Pentacles reversed
Finances out of wack, time management skills lacking, not succeeding in being an Emperor. The way things are going right now I’m really resisting the need to get out of my introverted state and do more out in the world. The Father of Pentacles is the ultimate business manager. He knows how to market himself, set his financial goals, and work to achieve them. I’m really good at knowing what my goals are, but not on the part about working and moving towards those goals. I make great plans, but I do not execute well. If I truly want to succeed in growing my business, creating a firm financial structure, and feeling secure in my physical world, I need to be more present and involved in that physical world. I need to show up, connect, ground, and interact. This is my wake up call that if I don’t change my outlook on work, home, and finances, I’m not going to make any progress in ruling this domain during this year of The Lovers. The Lovers do not lend me much help here because they are associated with Gemini and Air, which is so my thing, living in the cerebral world of thinking and planning. The energy energy of the Father of Pentacles reversed reminds me that I may be in my air element with a Lovers year, but my element does not support the kind of physical security in the world that I am craving right now. I need to adjust course and work towards my goals more concretely.

Okay, well there you have it, my birthday reading for myself. I feel like there is big work to be done this year and I know where to focus my energy if I am committed to growth. I know there are tons of grounding things I can do for myself to support that growth and I am excited to put in the effort. My life feels purposeful and directed, now my challenge is to follow that feeling.  Wish me luck!